(via echidnasdiary)
microdosing on living by going to the grocery store
(via incandescentapathy)
One of the most healing things I’ve strove (striven?) to do in my life is viewing sex as just another thing people do, among a host of other things like eating and pooping and playing with cats.
Our entire society, feminists and puritans alike, pushes the idea that sex is uniquely powerful and dangerous, capable of inflicting The Worst Trauma or the Highest Fulfillment, and that’s…just flat out untrue. Other experiences can cause similar trauma: violence, disasters, war, instability. Other experiences can result in transcendent pleasure: trance states, live music, non-sexual intimacy, tattoos.
I think this is where the disconnect in perception about sex positivity comes from, because the phrase itself makes people who already view sex as being uniquely powerful think sex positivity means viewing sex as uniquely good, when actually…it’s mostly about taking sex off that pedestal. Normalizing sex. Making it into just another thing people do. Because that’s the first step in making sure people can engage with sex on their own terms in a healthy way.
Taking sex off its cultural pedestal was the thing that allowed me to overcome the deeply-instilled shame I developed from being raised within Christian purity culture, and from being queer, and from existing as a woman. I think a failure to do that, in feminist circles, often leads to an overblowing of the (very real) harm that sex has the potential to do at the exclusion of other problems facing women and other marginalized groups, which often leads to more shaming rhetoric - just rhetoric that shames different people for different reasons.
Sex is not the enemy and it’s not our savior. It’s just one more thing people can do with their bodies.
(via violentviolette)
i can’t believe people on this website hated when english teachers told them to explain why the curtains are blue. that is genuinely where i SHINED. i absolutely fucking love picking apart the minute details of art and film and television and literature to attribute them meaning. hell yeah works are a living body that take on a meaning beyond an author’s intent and explicitly written/painted/etc material. hell yeah works have many dimensions which are made richer by our own perspectives and many great elements of a work developed between the lines of intent and interpretation
(via softnora)
what situation is not instantly improved by the addition of fishnets, I ask you
Being a fish
Well, shit
(via incandescentapathy)
Be thankful for what the situation taught you, grateful for the lessons you learned, and move on with your life. That cycle has ended, and a beautiful new beginning awaits you.
(via girl-of-ur-wetdreamss)
